Evolving from a Ms. to a Mrs.

Today is officially four months until I become Mrs. K!  I can’t believe I am going to be a “Mrs.” – that’s just crazy!  I know I say this a lot, but it really is kind of hard to wrap my head around the idea that I’m going to be a wife.  I struggle a lot of the time even remembering I’m an adult, but now I’m going to be a wife?!

I wonder what it will feel like to not only be a “Mrs.” but to be a Mrs. K, instead of a Ms. B., that’s a bit of a jump down the alphabet (not as much as my big sister, who went from B to N, but close to it).  I talk about this Ms. to Mrs. transition a lot with M. and he always teases me like it’s not that big of a deal, but he really just doesn’t understand.  I tried to explain to him, “Imagine if you were changing your name” and his response was, “But I’m not.”  Lol.  I guess he’s right, he’s not, but I am and the concept is daunting to me.

About a month ago, I mentioned to my father how I was probably going to keep my middle name when I get married (as opposed to changing my middle name to my maiden name) and he almost seemed sad.  He was definitely surprised, I think since both my mother and sister have dropped their middles names in exchange for their maiden names there has been an expectation built that I would do the same, but quite honestly, I really love my middle name.  It was given to me in memory of someone, and that always felt really special to me.  I guess I look at it like this, I’ll always have my maiden name – my parents will always carry that name, and my brother and his family will always carry that name, but if I drop my middle name, I feel like it will just be lost in the abyss.  No one will know my beautiful Irish name, Erin Patricia, and that makes me sad.

I will say, I have been working on my signature for probably the last… three years?  Yeah, I’m that girl who practices signing my name with the guy I am dating’s last name.  But with all those years of practice, I’ve definitely got that baby down.  So if nothing else, the transition from one signature to the other should be a bit of a breeze, even if the transition from Ms. to Mrs. isn’t as easy.

  1. This is a totally sweet post 🙂
    I am going from Miss D. to Mrs. E. Not too much of a jump. Just like you- there is no way in hell I am changing my middle name. I love it too much. And I haven’t started practicing signatures…maybe I should get on that.

    • KBChap
    • May 10th, 2011

    Erin – You do not have to drop a name or live with a hyphentated one either…just have two middle initials. My dear friend from high school did that and has not regretted it! Do what you want and don’t “settle” for anything else!

    • Shanea
    • May 10th, 2011

    Decisions, decisions 🙂 Pick what feels right and you won’t regret it. Enjoy this special time as the next 4 months will probably fly by and you will see how hard it is going from the practice writing to remembering to write the new name. Oh, and when someone calls you by that name once you realize they are talking to you, you won’t stop smiling!

  2. Hehe! I just loved reading all the responses you got! I wanted you to know I thought of you yesterday and mentally “called” you to giggle about your “almost-versary.” Yes, I just coined a new term. Please use it for the next three “almost-versaries” and be sure to credit me!

    Aaaaaaaaanyway, I think that you have to do what feels right to you. I kept B because I just couldn’t imagine not being part of the “B” clan. It wasn’t a whim or something. I knew deep down that I wanted to use that name — much in the same way that you seem to feel about Patricia. Don’t sweat it! We still know you’re related 😉

    Love ya!

  3. You know, I’ve never heard of changing a middle name to a maiden name when a woman gets married — how interesting!

    I’ve thought about how it would feel to no longer be Megan S. — I mean, our identities are so wrapped up in this important attribute: our name. It all begins and ends with our name. But the call is completely yours, of course — and Patricia does seem very important to you!

    I think that someday I’ll change my name legally but keep my maiden name professionally — and that way I can cheat and live in both worlds without having to hyphenate. 🙂 That’s my plan, anyway!

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